Holy batshiz, this has really gotten the best of me, now hasn’t it?
I told myself that I would process 4 things that led to my recent termination, so why not start with one of the hardest subjects…..
I made the people I worked closest to aware of my anxiety. I confided in them. Maybe it turned against me, maybe not….maybe I’ll just never know.
But anxiety has been with me…alongside me since….gosh….college?
I remember walking to one of my classes, being so closed off, being paranoid that people are talking shit about me, having a fast heart rate, becoming more distant and non-trustworthy of my roommate at the time, feeling pressure of the real world sneaking up on me, and so on….that it has left quite the impression.
Now looking back on that, I don’t even know (or remember), what triggered that specific event, but that was only the beginning. I believe it’s all been going downhill ever since then.
I battled and fought through those feeling of paranoia, worry, anxiety/social anxiety, all while pushing towards a degree that I was even starting to lose faith in. I just let those feelings pass, trying to convince myself that I was fine.
I battled in silence.
During my senior internship was when things started getting really bad. About halfway through that, I was just so paranoid that people didn’t like me automatically that my performance suffered. After talking it over with my supervisor, I managed to turn it around so that I graduated.
Battling in silence.
Then everything was fine…I got my first job out of college (in a matter of 2-ish months). Got my own apartment. Got out of my parents hair. I was living the life. But then those feelings crept back in. Being awkward…people not liking me…being paranoid. Things would be fine, then I would be so anxious about life and work that I had a hard time sleeping. That kept going on until February of 2016.
Then, I addressed these problems to a doctor.
After much pushing of me getting a check up on my health, I went to a doctor to address these problems, and as a result, he gave me a diagnosis of Generalized Anxiety Disorder and gave me citalopram.
And boy, did it help……at the time.
Everything seemed to get better again. My anxiety started to disappear and life seemed like it was hunky dory.
But then, my bad feelings crept back in. I let stress get to me. I let everything going on affect me. And this happened and happened until…..I was fired from that job.
That’s when I hit an all time low. This was never supposed to happen! This result was such a shock to me, and especially to my parents. And we all reeled….mourned…..I thought the worst of the worst….went through unemployment….process what happened, and got my mojo back to look for another job. This all happened in the span of 1 1/2 months.
I was excited again. Maybe it wasn’t my number 1 choice, but man….I was going to rock this out! This was close to home, in a place I would always visit.
And then my anxiety hit.
I had to drive a big freaking bus for the first time, and I didn’t know where any doctors office of was! But I eventually got through this with a GPS and faith.
There was a resident who was always so mean to me! I let it get to me at first, but eventually, I learned to let it go.
There were times when I told superiors of stuff that wasn’t really supposed to be happening, and then those person getting snippy about it with me. But all of that eventually dissolved.
I was feeling fine….until a performance review.
I was told that I wasn’t being happy, that I wasn’t bringing enthusiasm, and that people thought I didn’t do anything. Then, I cried in front of my superiors. But then, I got back up on my feet and started carrying out improvements that were suggested. I thought, I can do it. I got this.
And once again, I battled in silence (even on medication and with everything that had happened to me).
Then come Mid-October.
I was told that I wasn’t being happy, that I wasn’t bringing enthusiasm, that I should’ve gotten in trouble for something….and I cried in front of her…….again.
And then my anxiety spiraled out of control.
My heart-rate always starting going up whenever I walked into my workplace, I worried about what would happen to me, what everyone would say about me, what everyone would think about me, what bad things would happen. I addressed these with my new doctor (who increased my citalopram) and also started seeing a therapist. Then everything came to a crashing burn when I backed the damn bus up into a light pole. My anxiety lit up like fire-crackers, I spilled all of that out to a close co-worker, and reported everything like I was supposed to. After that day, everything calmed down for a bit.
And then…..I was fired from that job……..I was fired again……AGAIN!
This was never supposed to happen to me! But this time, I anticipated the worst, so the blow wasn’t as shocking to me. But it was a big blow to my parents. They never thought this would happen to me again. Even with everything that was going right for me (in terms of addressing my mental health), I was at rock bottom again. There was a lot of explosive anger from me and my parents, a lot of crying (from me mostly).
And only a little bit of….”why me?”
Because why?
Anxiety played a part in this. Big time.
So going forward, one big thing is that I am going to be working on my mental health (and GAD, and other stuff) so that my future will be bright for me again. I commit myself to doing this….for me…..to take control of my life and my happiness.
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